How to Upgrade Communication & Keep from Becoming Your Parents
What do all relationships have in common?
Relationships require communication.
Growing up with a pattern of verbal fighting to stick up for myself, blaming people around me for my challenges, and sweeping feelings and arguments under the rug, it was a hard road to the realization communicating this way wasn’t really working for me. For me, reading Nonviolent Communication, by Marshall Rosenberg, really changed the way I see the use of language in interpersonal conflict as well as connection. I decided I wanted to give violence, the willingness to fight for what I believe I own, a rest, in favor of what Rosenberg promises is a better way to get what you want, while honoring the wants and boundaries of others.
Below is a brief synopsis, in ten easy steps, of what I learned about navigating conflict. If you read it and think that it’s too complicated, rest assured that my ten-year-old daughter and I run this formula with each other, in both directions, a few times a week with amazing success, especially the more times we practice it.