Blog

When your partner isn't showing up sexually the way you'd like...  blame, shame, or get up and create change from within? For most of my experience with sexual partners, they’ve largely ignored both my arousal and my climax in favor of their own. Some partners...

BDSM Explained The inner psychology of being "hit" for the pleasure of the recipient The first time I visited a “dungeon” at a sex-positive party, I was a bit surprised to see people tied up, spanked, and flogged, among other sensation-based types of play. A...

Tales from a Session: A woman seeking respite from anxiety and early-development trauma Somatic literally means, of the body. Many therapeutic experiences rely on verbal processing or education only. At the Somatica Institute, I learned that a far richer...

The apex of the non-monogamous experience: Not for the feign of emotional mind Before Hedonism, my partner and I attended dozens of sex-positive parties, all-day hotel takeovers, and several week-long couples’ cruises, most featuring fully stocked playrooms, themed...

When your partner cheats and lies but the relationship must go on. What is it about infidelity that makes it so compelling and irresistible for the instigators, and maddening for the partners who feel victimized by it? I’ve seen countless clients, men and women,...

A young, local business owner came to see me about life coaching and goal setting. He’s worked hard, tirelessly, for the last two years to build his business to where it is now, nearly able to be sustained without the owner’s daily participation. As such, my client...

Dearest Partner, I love our relationship. I feel secure and comfortable with where we are but also feel like I still have a drive towards meeting new people and having sexual encounters with others besides you. I hope that I don’t trigger you by saying this as I am...

What is Tanta? Relationships require communication. It’s a Hindu or Buddhist mystical text from the 7th century or earlier that outlines the principles and rituals of meditation, yoga, and sexuality. 'The weaving and expansion of energy’ Not goal-oriented or orgasm...

Animals and Snuggles He sought me out because he wanted to spice things up in his marriage. Between kids, work, projects on the house, and weekly dinners with other couples, he and his wife had forgotten how to find their passion. We started the first session by...

Wise Hedonists are lovers of life. They seek to maximize their fulfillment and pleasures sustainably. What good is pleasure if it comes at a detrimental cost to your future self? Wise choices in the now will afford the long-term opportunity to continue on the path...